What was the turning point for your decision to become a surrogate?
I knew when I had my second child, I didn’t want any more kids. But I enjoyed being pregnant so I had considered surrogacy. Then one of my close friends found out she couldn’t have kids because she was born with half a uterus. I immediately said I would be a surrogate for her. They didn’t end up needing me because they were able to get pregnant. But as soon as I said it, I realized I wanted to do it.
What are some myths that you come across about surrogacy?
The number one myth is that you will get attached to the baby. People think you're giving up a baby but it’s not yours to give away. It’s extreme babysitting. You're not sitting there planning your future with the baby or thinking of baby names. You don’t grow attached.
How has the extra income impacted you and your family?
We bought a house with the compensation from my first journey. It's the only reason we could afford the down payment. That was life altering.
Why would you recommend Supportive Conceptions Surrogacy [SCS]?
Kim is the absolute best. I have surrogate groups I am in and hear so many woes about other agencies like they are so hard to get a hold of and my reimbursement didn’t come through. I feel bad sometimes when they complain because Kim is the best. She always gets back to me and has helped me every step of the way. I don’t think there is anything I have encountered that she hasn't been able to fix or alleviate me of my fears.
Because it’s all local surrogates, I have been able to go to retreats and go to meetups. I didn’t expect to create so many bonds with other surrogates when I went into this. That is another great benefit of SCS.